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不体育也可很体育!My Son Taught Me Sportsmanship by Not Playing Sports

发表于 2019 年 11 月 14 号 目录 杂谈/Points | 不体育也可很体育!My Son Taught Me Sportsmanship by Not Playing Sports已关闭评论

 

My Son Taught Me Sportsmanship by Not Playing Sports
《我兒子透過非運動項目教我體育精神》
原文链接:https://livingthesecondact.com/2019/10/29/sportsmanship-by-not-playing- sports/

 

My sixteen year old son walks out towards the car where I wait to pick him up from band practice with a huge smile on his face. He waves at me, then drops his backpack to the ground to pull out something bulky and bright red, which he proceeds to put on. He comes closer, his smile wide. Squaring his shoulders, he points proudly to himself. He is wearing his new varsity letter jacket over his t-shirt and shorts in the sweltering August heat. It’s nearly 100 degrees but from the smile on his face, I know he doesn’t care.

我十六歲的兒子朝著我等他從樂隊練習結束的車子走來,臉上掛著燦爛的笑容。他向我揮手,然後把背包扔在地上,拿出一件看起來笨重的鮮紅色的東西,把它穿在身上。他向我走近,笑容滿面,挺起胸膛,驕傲地指著自己。在悶熱的八月天,他把繍著他名字的全新校隊外套,穿在原本的 T 恤和短褲 外,當時氣溫接近華氏 100 度(攝氏 38 度),但從他臉上的笑容,我知道他 一點也不在乎。

His pride over the jacket surprises me. He’s not the kind of kid who’s into sports, as a player or a fan, and never has been.
他對這件夾克的驕傲使我吃驚,他不是那種對運動感興趣的孩子,不管是作為運動員或球迷,而且從未有過。
He’s more interested in other things, like music and computers, and goes to football games only because he’s a member of the marching band. At the games, he knows when to pound out a stand tune to get the crowd going and can play the school fight song on more than one type of instrument, but he’s not entirely clear on the rules of the game and often doesn’t know the final score after he gets home.他對其它的事物更感興趣,比如音樂和電腦,他之所以去美式足球賽場,只因是學校行進樂團的一員。在球賽進行中,他知道該什麼時候打出調動觀眾的樂曲,並且可以使用多種樂器演奏學校行進樂曲,但他並不完全清楚美式足球賽的規則,而且回家後常常不知道最後的比分。

I think he was in first grade when I first gave in to my own feelings of peer pressure and signed him up to play flag football. All the other boys’ parents in his class had gotten together to form a team and despite my son’s lack of interest in anything involving a ball, I told him he had to play.

我想是在他上小學一年級的時候,我第一次經歷到自己同齡人壓力的感覺,然後幫他報名了奪旗橄欖球隊。當時他班上其他男孩的家長已經聚在一起組了一支球隊,儘管我兒子對任何涉及球類的運動完全不感興趣,我告訴他,他必須加入球隊。

I didn’t want him to be left out by not playing sports, and to be honest, I didn’t want to be left out either.

我不希望他因為不參加體育運動而被排除在外,但是老實說,我也不想被排除在外。

He liked being on the team, wearing the uniform, and especially the post game pizza, but he spent all of his time on the bench, telling jokes and cheering on his teammates. When the coach finally put him in the game for one play, he didn’t try to get the ball or the other players’ flags. Instead, he ran alongside the best player as he made his way down the field smiling and yelling, “Go Jeffrey! You can do it!” The parents cheered as Jeffrey scored the winning touchdown, and barely acknowledged my presence on the bench as they high fived each other over the team’s victory.

他喜歡待在球隊裡,穿著球隊制服,特別是比賽結束後的披薩,但他幾乎所有 的時間都坐在板凳上,講笑話,為隊友加油。當教練終於換他上場比賽時,他 並沒有試圖去拿到球或另一隊球員的旗幟,而是在往球場的一端跑時,跟在最 優秀的球員旁,臉上帶著微笑並大喊:”加油,傑佛瑞!你可以的!” 當傑佛 瑞最後達陣得分致勝時,所有家長們歡呼雀躍,在他們為球隊的勝利互相擊掌 時,幾乎無視於我在板凳上的存在。

I should have let it be, but I didn’t. Over the course of his elementary school years, we tried to find his sport, and in the photos from that time, he appears in a variety of uniforms – baseball, basketball, soccer, and even that Pee Wee flag football team. Looking at them now, I see how each time it was like trying on a costume that didn’t fit.

我應該要放棄的,但我沒有。在他小學的歲月裡,我們試圖找到適合他的運 動,從當時的照片中,他穿著各種球隊制服 – 棒球、籃球、足球,甚至 Pee Wee 奪旗橄欖球隊。現在看著這些相片,我了解到每次就像在試一套不合適自己的服裝。

At recess, when other kids played ball on the playground at recess, he would spend the entire time reenacting scenes from Star Wars or Indiana Jones, humming his own action themes as he battled enemies invisible to the rest of the world.

學校課間休息時,當其他的孩子在操場上打球,他會花全部的時間重現《星球大戰》或《印第安那·瓊斯》中的場景,在與其他人都看不見的敵人作戰時,哼唱著屬於自己的動作主題。

At some point, we gave up trying to interest him in playing sports. I like to think we were letting him find his own way based on some theory of independent parenting, like letting free range chickens roam at will across the pasture, but in truth, not playing sports might have been merely the path of least resistance.

在某個階段,我們放棄了嘗試激起他對運動的興趣。往好處想,我們讓他找出自己感興趣的事物,是基於某些自主的教養方式,好比讓放養的雞隨意在農場上游走,但事實上,不參與運動項目,可能僅僅是最少衝突的途徑。

And then quite by accident, he discovered band. Given his choice of instrument, he picked percussion. His joy in music found expression in the rhythm of drumming, to the great dismay of his sisters. Even when he wasn’t officially practicing, he would tap his fingers or a pencil or even his fork on any available surface, finding serenity in the repetitive cadence.

之後在很偶然間,他發現了樂團,在選擇樂器時,他挑選了打擊樂。他對音樂的喜悅從敲鼓節奏中表現出來,這令他的姐姐們大為驚愕,即使不是正式練習,他也會在任何可用的台面上輕敲手指頭或鉛筆,甚至使用叉子,在重複的節奏中找到屬於自己的寧靜。

Getting to this point hasn’t been easy for him or me, but as I’ve watched him move from that little boy sitting on the bench to become a young man, I know I’ve grown up too.

對於他或我來說,達到現在這點並不容易,但是當我看著他從一個坐在板凳上的小男孩變成年輕人的轉變,我知道我也成長了。

As he walks onto the football field, my son takes his place proudly not with the players, but with the drum line. I cheer as the band takes the field, and wear my band parent status with pride. My son has finally found his team, one that welcomes him and accepts him as he is. It gives him teammates and friends, the challenge of competition, and the joy of sharing music as a common goal, all with no running around after a ball. Now I understand why that jacket makes him smile.

在他走上美式足球場時,我兒子驕傲地站到他的位置,但不是和球員在一起, 而是和樂團的鼓隊。當學校樂團佔領整個球場時,我高聲歡呼 ,並為我身為樂 團家長的身分感到驕傲。我兒子終於找到了他的團隊,一個歡迎並接納真實的 他的組織,這帶給他隊友和朋友,比賽的挑戰,及分享音樂作為共同目標的喜 悅,這些全都不用跟在球後面跑來跑去。現在我終於明白為什麼那件夾克能使 他開心地笑了。

有关译者:

译者June老师是我的朋友,曾给过我职业选择上非常大的提示和帮助。她养育了两个优秀的孩子,是一位成功又博学的终身学习者。这篇文章就是June老师的朋友写的,June老师看过,非常有感触,继而翻译并分享给我。

有关作者:

Catherine Gentry

Catherine Gentry is a writer living in Houston, Texas. She retired from practicing law to raise her three nearly grown children, and her writing has been featured online at Literary Mama, Grown & Flown, the “Voices” section of the Princeton Alumni magazine, and in the Houston Chronicle, as well as on her blog, “Words Count”  https://catherinewordscount.wordpress.com/featured-writing/

A letter jacket is a baseball-styled jacket traditionally worn by high school and college students in the United States to represent school and team pride as well as to display personal awards earned in athletics, academics or activities. Letter jackets are also known as “varsity jackets” and “baseball jackets” in reference to their American origins.

字母夾克是傳統上美國高中生和大學生穿的棒球風格的夾克,代表學校和團隊的驕傲,及展示 在體育、學術或活動中贏得的個人獎項。字母夾克也被稱為”校隊夾克”和”棒球夾克”,起源自美國。

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9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 007-Developing a Creative Mind 拓展创造性思维

发表于 2019 年 07 月 31 号 目录 教案/Instructional Design | 9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 007-Developing a Creative Mind 拓展创造性思维已关闭评论

Here are your assignments:

1. Is word association not working for you? Try word disassociation. Get together with a friend or two and try coming up with a series of words that have nothing to do with each other. It’s harder than it sounds, and it can make for some interesting connections, because you’ll discover relationships between ideas you thought were entirely separate. You can do the discussions in WeChat group directly.
2. If your brain’s freezing up when you think about your assigned topic and you’ve tried all the ideas mentioned in the lecture, ask your teacher if it’s all right for you and a friend to brainstorm for each other’s topics, then give each other your lists of ideas. Taking the immediate pressure off in this way might relax you enough to let your mind play. You can do the discussions in WeChat group directly.

3. Write an essay based on Future Leadership Academy (FLA). You need to use the following two key words once at least in your article: Future, Leadership. Please download :9 年级暑期学术夏令营线上教学任务单 and send it back to danny.duan@flacademy.cn by 20:00, August 2nd, 2019.

Good Luck!

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9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 006-Taking Charge of Homework 如何做作业

发表于 2019 年 07 月 31 号 目录 教案/Instructional Design | 9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 006-Taking Charge of Homework 如何做作业已关闭评论

对于做作业来说,真的是风格各异,不拘一格。请大家自习观看今天的教学视频,然后列出你自己写作业的时候,应该注意策略(Study Strategies)的列表。你可以参考Geisen老师根据各个不同特点的学生推荐的的教学策略,也可以依据自己的特点归纳最适合自己的“独门策略”。请在北京时间2019年8月2日20:00前,将任务单发送到danny.duan@flacademy.cn.(点击下载:9 年级暑期学术夏令营线上教学任务单

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密码保护:9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 005-To Be the Captain of Yourself 做自己的船长

发表于 2019 年 07 月 22 号 目录 教案/Instructional Design | 密码保护:9th Grade Academic Summer Camp-SDP 005-To Be the Captain of Yourself 做自己的船长已关闭评论

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Contemplating Chinese Speed and English Time 欲速则不达,中西无不同

发表于 2019 年 07 月 19 号 目录 杂谈/Points | Contemplating Chinese Speed and English Time 欲速则不达,中西无不同已关闭评论

段玉佩按:这是一篇写于2018年年底的文章,标题来自我的搭档,Dr. Brian O’Hare在工作中常常说的一句口头禅。现在看来,文中的内容我个人也觉得观点正确,值得在任何一个中西方兼容的工作环境中注意。敝帚自珍,立此存照。

Authors: Yupei Duan (Danny), Brian O’Hare

“Danny, you know, this is another ‘Chinese Speed versus English Time’ issue also…” were the words uttered to me by my coworker one day as we were planning our agenda for the week. Since Brian is the International Academic Dean at the Future Leadership Academy, I accepted his remarks just like he would accept some suggestions from me. Brian and I learn from each other and work together closely. The concepts of “Chinese speed and English time,” as he put it, were definitely good things to think about as an international team was forming. These words, I would later come to find out, have become a very important lesson for anyone working in a bilingual environment with two very different cultural approaches to time management.

 

Before starting my current position as the Chinese Academic Dean in FLA, for 10 years I worked in an elite high school in Beijing. When I worked as a subject teacher there, in my opinion, teachers on campus were just like soldiers on the front line of a conflict. They all needed to be given instant responses to spontaneous incidents so that they could be better prepared to fight to win. I was trained to finish preparing an excellent lesson plan with a well-organized PPT within 40 mins in my college. My education reinforced the notion that work was to be finished before the deadline. My mentor in college once told me, “If you have time for your meals, then you have time for your lesson plan.” It became one of my common habits that all assigned tasks should be finished ASAP, and that I should say “Yes, sir” to everything asked of me on campus just like on an army base. Because I grew up on an army base it was a natural response for me to obey orders without question. Now, however, I would like to reflect on this response after finishing one semester’s worth of work with many international colleagues. Is this truly necessary? What are the real reasons for such a short time for preparation? Are there any better and wiser solutions?

 

At the beginning of the first semester, I held a meeting with all of the parents, students, faculty and staff to introduce the schedules, after school programs, facilities, etc. At the same time, I had planned to ask subject teachers to present a brief introduction at the meeting. When I shared this idea with Brian, he suggested that I write requirement in an email and to distribute the proposal to all teachers ASAP to give them more time to prepare. I expressed how I did not think it was very hard to handle an introduction for a subject teacher, yet Brian reminded me that it would be more acceptable if teachers received tasks at least 24 hours in advance. It was not exactly clear what was asking of them last minute, which then turned into a conversation about what kinds of introductions we wanted them to present. Should these introductions focus on their classes or other academic requirements? Or should these be presentations about the teachers’ experiences in and out of the classroom?  It became obvious that I did not think very carefully through all of the details. Later, we sent a message to describe all the details we wanted the teachers do, which led to a more effective and productive meeting in the long run.

 

Over the next few months, similar phenomena would happen. Gradually, I found a lot of advantages from jumping into something without thinking of all the possibilities more thoroughly. As a dean, I need to strategize ahead and think broader about certain topics than teachers and other staff. In this way, I must arrange plans and design blueprints ahead of department heads and coordinators. The more detailed the plans I have found, the better arrangement I can make for providing the best leadership and mentorship to all teachers. In hindsight, I would like to thank Brian who fist mentioned to me this notion of “Chinese speed versus English time”, which is clearly expressed by a Chinese idiom: More haste, less speed. (欲速则不达)

 

Unfortunately, being efficient cannot overstep the dignity deserving of all staff at FLA. For example, one night at an online meeting that included some administrators and myself, I had still wanted to express an idea when the meeting organizer abruptly ended the meeting by saying goodbye and hanging up the call. My sentence was interrupted and the meeting was finished, yet because I felt it was not right to occupy others’ time in such a manner, I could accept how the meeting ended. I personally believed that it was my fault for the curt behavior since I had extended the meeting time. The next morning, a colleague who attended that meeting told me that she felt sorry about how I was interrupted during my final statement. She did not think it was polite and wanted me to feel better about the situation. In actuality, I did not think anything was wrong at that time because of the idea of “Chinese speed” was one of my working philosophies already. Therefore, I could understand and accept this abrupt behavior. When another colleague found me to talk individually to explain his thoughts about that encounter, and then later, a third and fourth colleague came to comfort me separately, I began to realize something was amiss. Finally, I received a written apology from the meeting organizer. Several days later when we had another online meeting, he again apologized. These apologies left me confused again. Why would my international colleagues value their time and yet act differently when I had disregarded it? My understanding of “English time” with all of its rules and regulations is still something I am discovering the more I engage with the international staff.

 

In ending, I now understand that the school is more like a garden than a battle field. We need to be patient and detailed gardeners in order for the flowers and trees to grow. This requires us to nurture ideas, and take more time to make sure the quality of the word is not lost for the sake of speed. We do not have to be brave warriors who do know how to finish the work on time, but who do not know how to say “No” to decision-makers even if there are apparent flaws in their plans. As leaders, we need to keep the lines of communication open more, then we will be able to find out the real problems across various departments within the institution. By trying our best to avoid making mistakes, we can see the big picture when the problems regarding “speed” and “time” are really related to quantity versus quality. Before I became dean, I thought I partly understand this concept of “Chinese Speed versus English Time,” and I now know that I have a lot to learn from my international colleagues. The same goes for them as they learn to work in a different culture that sometimes moves at the speed of light, and I hope that we can learn to balance our quality of time and quantity of speed together.

《欲速则不达,中西无不同》
段玉佩 吴炳琨
“段,你知道吗?这又是一个有关于‘东方速度,西方时间’的问题……”这句话来自我的搭档,外方学术主任Brian O’Hare博士, 当时我们正在制定学术部的周日程,我接受了他对我日程修改的看法——就像他也常常会采纳我的建议一样,合作融洽的我俩常常分享一句话,“东方速度,西方时间”——这是Brian在发现东西方教育工作方式的不同时,常脱口而出的一句话。同时,在国际教育团队的熔炼过程中,这也是非常重要的一个话题。在我们共事的过程中,我逐渐发现在多文化交汇,双语言使用的国际学校中,对这个话题的深入思考,是非常必要的。
在我成为未来领导力学校的中方学术主任之前,我曾在北京某精英公立中学工作了10年。在为师的历程中,我一直认为教师就应该像前线的勇士,他们需要对瞬时发生的事件作出即时和有效的反馈,这样才能获取战斗的胜利。在大学时代,我被训练在40分钟内完成一节课的高质量教案和演示文档。在我曾工作的学校,所有的老师都知道“课比天大”。我的导师曾对我说过这样的话:“你如果有时间吃饭,你就有时间写教案。”“按时完成任务”在潜移默化中成为了我的工作常识之一。无论什么样的任务布置给我,我的第一反应都应该是像军人那样回答“是,好的。”对于从小在军营中长大的我来说,这是司空见惯的事。 不过,在国际学校环境中与文化多元的国际化教师群体工作了一段时间之后,我觉得自己之前的做法和想法可能有些问题。很多事情真的有必要做吗?很多事情着急要做的真正原因到底是什么?还有没有更好的选项呢?
上一学期刚刚开始,我要给所有的家长、学生、教职工开会,介绍学校的课程结构,必修课、课后活动、教学场所等等。同时,我也期望任课教师们在那个会上可以做一些简要的自我介绍。当我把这个想法和Brian分享时,他建议我尽量提前发邮件来通知所有的老师做好准备。我当时觉得这么做没必要,因为任课教师做自我介绍,还不是手到擒来吗?Brian提醒我说,最好提前24小时给老师们安排任务,别到现场才让老师知道他们要做介绍。“另外,你具体想让老师们介绍什么呢?是介绍他们的课程?还是介绍课程的学术标准?抑或是让他们介绍自己的工作经历?”很明显,我之前完全没有想到这么细致。之后,我们将具体的要求发送给各位老师,会议的质量一下子就提高了很多。
在之后几个月中,此类事件发生了好多次。逐渐的,我从这句话中学习到了很多内容。我开始喜欢上了谋定而后动的坦然,厌弃了焦躁仓促地决策。作为学术主任,我需要比一线教师们想的更长远更全面,只有这样,我才能站在更高的位置俯瞰学校课程的全貌,教学体系的蓝图。计划和方案制定的越精细,更高质量的教育成果才越有可能出现。我特别想感谢Brian的这句话,其实他也是从另外一个角度让我认识到了我们中国的古语“欲速则不达”。
不过,在FLA,还有比对于时间的珍视更重要的东西,那就是对于人的尊重。由于时差的关系,一天晚上,我和几位外籍教师在校内与身在美国的老师共同开线上会议,当会议已经到达结束时间,到了大家该互相道别的时候,我仍然有几句话想说。会议组织者在另一端告诉我,时间已经到了,并直接终止了会议。彼时,“东方速度,西方时间”,这句话再一次在我脑中响起,我耽误了别人的时间确实是有问题的,所以我觉得所有的问题都在我这里,在约定好的时间限制外,又额外延长了会议,肯定是我的不对。第二天,一个昨晚与会的同事找到我,告诉我说她对于昨晚我的遭遇感到很抱歉,会议组织者突然中止会议是很不礼貌的,她希望我现在感觉好些了。就像我前面描述到的我当时的心理活动,我一点也没觉得有问题,因为“东方速度,西方时间”已经成为我的工作常识之一了。紧接着,又一个昨晚参会的同事单独找到我,和我说了同样的事情,接下来是第三位、第四位……我开始觉得事情可能比我想象的要复杂的多。之后,我还收到了一封来自于中断会议的组织者从美国发来的道歉邮件。几天后,我恰巧又和这位组织者同时在线开另外一个会议时,他又再次向我道歉。这些道歉再一次让我陷入到深深的迷惑之中。为什么我们的国际教师们那么珍视自己的时间,可却在我不顾会议时间已经结束,仍然占用他们时间的时候,却都统一反对严守时间的会议组织者,而同情我这个耽误时间的人呢?“东方速度,西方时间”是否还深蕴它意?当然!远在对于个人时间的在乎之上的,是对人的尊重。
最终,我们明白了。学校更像一个花园,而不是一个战场。我们需要的是严谨守时,细致入微的园丁,这样才能让如花草般的学生更健康繁茂地生长。我们在栽培的是文化,这就需要更多的时间来去字斟句酌,而不是迷失在简单的数字增长之中。我要学习的,不是将每一件事都简单应承下来,而是应该学会对一些明显看起来有问题的安排和决策说“不”,并针对此展开讨论,将之变得更合理、更有效。作为管理者,我们应该保持与各部门的畅通交流,这样才能更好地发现潜在的问题,将事情做的更完美。无论是东方的速度问题,还是西方的时间问题,归根结底,都是关乎质量的问题。截至于此,我觉得我可能对于“东方速度,西方时间”有了些许的理解了,在我的同事身上,我能学到的事情还有很多很多,我很高兴我们能彼此学习、共同分享,在这个过程中,找到时间和速度的最佳结合点,让教育的质量变得更好。
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